Another delicious bowl of Friday Questions...
A double-header here...
1. Facebook Etiquette:
When you are no longer the only person from your school year on Facebook, is it incumbent on YOU* being the first one there, or THEM being the second one to do the poking?
A sub-question - How awkward is it to be the pokER when the other person obviously knows you're there and has declined to poke beforehand? Should (my friend) just ignore the existence of this Other Person???
2. Blogging Etiquette:
This is just a general hmmm... type of question. It's about partners and blogs and I know it has been mentioned before, I just can't remember what was decided.
You see, MrB knows about my blog, he just seriously can't be arsed reading it. Now that may something about my blog, or MrB, or both... I just can't actually work out how I feel about it all. Do I feel miffed that he's not interested in my scribblings, that he can't see why other people would want to comment on said scribblings? Or do I breathe a huge sigh of relief that he's not one of those interfering partners? Should I be glad that I can write whatever I want without fear of offending him?
Feel free to address either or both of these Hugely Important Issues, on this chilly and grey Friday (for which I am horrendously under-dressed - damn the sunniness of yesterday and my eternal optimism)
*That would be my 'friend' again then...
1. Facebook Etiquette:
When you are no longer the only person from your school year on Facebook, is it incumbent on YOU* being the first one there, or THEM being the second one to do the poking?
A sub-question - How awkward is it to be the pokER when the other person obviously knows you're there and has declined to poke beforehand? Should (my friend) just ignore the existence of this Other Person???
2. Blogging Etiquette:
This is just a general hmmm... type of question. It's about partners and blogs and I know it has been mentioned before, I just can't remember what was decided.
You see, MrB knows about my blog, he just seriously can't be arsed reading it. Now that may something about my blog, or MrB, or both... I just can't actually work out how I feel about it all. Do I feel miffed that he's not interested in my scribblings, that he can't see why other people would want to comment on said scribblings? Or do I breathe a huge sigh of relief that he's not one of those interfering partners? Should I be glad that I can write whatever I want without fear of offending him?
Feel free to address either or both of these Hugely Important Issues, on this chilly and grey Friday (for which I am horrendously under-dressed - damn the sunniness of yesterday and my eternal optimism)
*That would be my 'friend' again then...
posted by actonb at 10:59 am
12 Comments:
dude I know nothing about poking. Seriously. Nothing.
Having said that, as a result of recent chuckle-fests with friends, Mr Fix is now reading my blog occasionally, mainly to make sure I am not making fun of him TOO MUCH.
I don't know if I approve of this. But you can't spend hours whining "Why don't you ever want to read my blog?" and then be irritated when they do. That much seems clear.
Oh, wow, interactive AB. here you go:
1). You know why school reunions are a wank? Because the people you actaully CANn be arsed knowing about, you stay in touch with and dont need a reunion to find. Clearly, if someone walks into the (cyber) room and you are there already, they should be the ones to say hello. If they don't, it means they hate you and don't want to talk. "Poking" her now just looks needy. So screw her.
2). Be grateful he is not interested in your scribblings - you would feel the need to censor them sooner or later if he did. You know how you don't know an LMS from a Walschaerts at train place you went to? That is how he is with blogging. If you wanted him to comment on your blogs, you would be emailing him links each time you posted. Let sleeping dogs lie, and be happy they are, AB.
GW - I know you don't know about Facebook. But you do realise that you can't hide forever... you will surrender one day. And then the poking will be ferocious indeed.
I think the thing is that I don't want him reading all the time, but I also don't want him sneering for indulging in this 'blogging' lark. It's a fine line methinks...
Donnie - heh - I'm always interactive...
1. Yeah, that's kinda how I was looking at it. It's like, 'erm, excuse me, I was here first... kindly acknowledge me!' And if he (and it's a He) doesn't then, you know, I'll deal. It's just that I got shocking flashbacks to being ignored at school, and that's never very pleasant. If he was a nerd then I'd be happy to do the poking. But he in't. Well he wasn't at any rate. OH NO THE DILEMMAS!
Oh, and Donnie
2. Yeah, I don't want him commenting! Oh Dear Lord, no... So again, I'll deal. Dealing is what I do!
what is poking?
(1) AB he's just not that into you.
(If it is any consolation, he is more than likely bald, fat and divorced... and as for being ignored, well you know what Greta Garbo said... *wink*)
Hee Donnie - he SO is not into me... Although, from the photo, I seem to have aged a DAMN SIGHT better than he has, Mr School Captain, Hockey-playing UberJock!
HA! is all I'll say, in my typically graciously manner...
Oh there's no bitterness there.
Man! I thought I was over the School Yard silliness.
Obviously not.
Faecesbook promotes schoolyard silliness...
I quite like Facebook, but then I am a lazy as emailer, so its perfect for me and keeping in touch with my friends OS.
I say poke if (your friend) feel so inclined AB, and if not - STUFF them.
My husband has hardly read anything I've ever written, which has always been very irritating. Sometimes I just want it proofread before it goes to an editor.But the other day he came home from work and said he'd read my blog that day, it made me feel uncomfortable.
As for Facebook, I'm still the only person there from my entire school so I don't know. I can't be bothered with it anyway, I see who I want to see from school.
And sorry to throw a question back to you - but should I go to the 50th anniversary of my primary school? It would only be good if all those funny kids (the girl who thought she was a horse etc) came back as adults.
Nah Donnie - it ain't Facebook's fault, it's just my own deep-seated insecurities...
W - I think I am actually UNinclined to poke this particular person. If he wants to be a snob then fine!
And I'm quite partial to the Facebook now too - especially the Scrabblousness!
Leilani - hee - it's fun isn't it - no wonder men can't figure us out.
I think the thing with the Facebook non-poking is that I kinda just want to feel all growed-up and breaking down barriers and whatnot. And it isn't happening. Mind you, with there only being ONE other person on FB, it's not as though there are many barriers to BE broken...
And ... I dunno. I missed my primary school's anniversay, but we went along to the Girl's School's 50th, and it was fun... and all the 'Old' people seemed to really enjoy it too. So, if you've got nowt else on I'd go, but don't make too much of an ocassion(dear lord, why can't I spell this word?) of it. If that makes sense. If it doesn't, blame Big Brother and Torchwood.
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